New year. New you? It’s cute and catchy, but let’s be real. There is some serious fallacy behind New Year’s resolutions. In fact, according to statisticbrain.com, only 9% of people successfully achieve their resolution.

I AM a BIG proponent for goal setting and growth, so it’s a little disheartening that 42% of people never make New Year’s Resolutions. But, I get it. Getting caught up in the hype of the New Year doesn’t typically lead to triumph. So, how can you set yourself up for success?

Avoid these three fallacies.

Fallacy 1: January 1 is a deadline.

A wooden hour glass sits on top of a white countertop running out of time. This signifies us feeling like we have a deadline.

This isn’t a Cinderella story. The clock did not start or run out on our goals at the stroke of midnight. If you haven’t thought about what’s ahead, START NOW!

If there are still situations, dreams, goals, and deadlines unfinished from the previous calendar year – KEEP GOING! There’s no need to start over or throw in the towel.

Consequently, it’s not ALL going to change or get done this month.

We put so much pressure on ourselves to start fresh and be this new person in January that it becomes constricting. You should feel inspired not restricted.

Expressing and exploring your inner most desires IS A LIBERATING EXPERIENCE. It’s a continual journey and one that should be enjoyed. Sure it’s filled with many mundane, not always welcomed sacrifices and steps – but the process has a passionate purpose. And that GIVES LIFE.

Fallacy 2: You have something that needs resolve.

This black and white picture shows cracked glass that is not completely shattered. It's cracked but still largely intact.

This is likely personal preference, but I do not like the term ‘resolution’ in this sense. Resolutions are finite. Resolutions imply there is something wrong; that something needs fixing.

People can grow. People can change. People can evolve. People can reprioritize. People can see the error of their ways and choose to do better. People can be enlightened. But, I don’t like this idea that people need to be “fixed.”

Resolutions are a+b=c. That’s not life. That’s not human. Just knowing something, doesn’t evoke transformation, competence or purpose. If you aren’t motivated by purpose, if there’s not a soul stirring WHY – IT AIN’T GOING TO HAPPEN.

So if not a ‘resolution,’ what? Let me enlighten you.

Fallacy 3: You will just make it happen. Desire is enough.

As the sun sets, we see a hand desperately gripping onto a wire.

How can you expect something life changing to happen if you aren’t open to changes in life? You simply cannot make room for new possibilities without letting go of something else.

We so often pray for more hours in the day. We wish we had more hands. And because these things are not possible, we accept the ruts and the continual circle that becomes life. We accept that we can’t “have it all.”

Here’s the thing though, we can’t have it all AT ONCE – but we can have it all in pieces. If you are saying ‘yes’ to something, you are simultaneously saying ‘no’ to something else. Every second, on a subconscious level, this is happening. How would life change if you did this consciously?

If you want new love, have you purged the toxic love in your life?

If you want to eat better, have you raided and discarded the not so great things in your pantry?

If you want to live your “best life” and be your “best self,” have you stopped following, liking and commenting on every drama filled social media post on your timeline?

What are you willing to give up to make room for something new?

I love this time of year. It’s exciting to think of what could be and there seems to be more hope in the world. So capture that energy! Be inspired. The difference isn’t midnight….the difference is you.

There’s nothing more powerful than a changed mind.

In place of a resolution, try this!